I have done a lot of research and exploring to attempt to find out 'what's next', why do Jan and I struggle with feeling unhappy? How can we get to happy state?
I also have been searching for a job, next career, and how to avoid 9 - 5 rat race. Yes causing myself .. more Stress..
MY brain is about to explode - quite literally. Too much information! At least for my old brain.
But it will always amaze me at how much information is available. And upon attempting to find the total number of blogs out there - the stats are old but lets just say it will be impossible for me to 'eat the whole thing'. The number of blogs at Technorati is over 112 million!!
But I digress.
My search for how to be happy, and also focus more on the happy factor than making everyone miserable with my stress and 'situation', let me from one link to another and tweet to twit tweet. Of course some took me on tangents, as were too interesting to pass by. Such as the Hackers Diet - oh yeah!!
AH HAH MOMENT
I found it!! At blog :
Chief Happiness Officer by Alexander Kjerulf in Denmark. His site is amazing and full of Happiness. He made a discovery that he realized was not foolish, but the real thing, for how to be happy at work. He strictly adheres to writing about being happy.
How did I find this site? Well somewhere along my clicking on links, I took an emotional intelligence test Queendom - land of tests - and did poorly. If I wanted the whole complete report, it would cost me $7.95. I hesitated, and almost clicked that link as well - but, realized the teaser report was enough. The main point was - ' You have scored not so good with emotional intelligence at this time, due to how you are feeling about yourself. You need to resolve these issues first.'
And this lead me to the Chief Happiness Officer site - uhm somehow. And I read article that answered many of my jumbled questions over the past few days, as well as suggestions by others.
Top 5 Myths About Workplace Stress
Myth #1: Stress is normal.
To accept stress as a normal condition of work is bad for people and bad for business!
Myth #2: Stress is caused by working too much
Stress has nothing to do with the number of hours you work, and everything to do with how you feel during those hours.
Myth #3: Stress is cured by working less
People hit by stress need to increase their capacity and confidence at work.
Myth #4: Stress is cured by working more
Workplace stress does not come from falling behind at work. It comes from how you feel about falling behind.
Myth #5: Stress is cured by focusing on stress
A recent study showed that people who return from anti-stress training felt more stressed than people who didn’t attend. No wonder, because focusing on stress is not the way to remove it – it’s a great way to create more stress. Instead, you must focus on what gives you peace and energy.
AND THE SUPER AH HAH MOMENT:
The truth on stress
Repeat after me:
Work does not give you stress.
Feeling bad about work gives you stress.
This means that changing your work hours, your responsibilities, your priorities or your work environment is meaningless, unless it also changes the way you feel at work.
Those stress management courses will not do the trick either, unless they can achieve just that.
If you’re stressed, you must take charge and make whatever changes are necessary to go from feeling anxious, inadequate or drained at work to feeling appreciated, proud and energetic.
Which will not only remove workplace stress, but will also make you more efficient, creative, successful and happy at work.
AH HAH ...
It comes down to how we feel about work, the workplace for work happiness.
And we need to examine other areas of our life as well - in order to focus on the 'happy' and take charge to make ourselves feel appreciated, proud and energetic.
Yes .. it is not easy. It is damned hard - but we should be at least happy as we get there.
Let's be happy, as a realization that we can be happy and do have the power to change.
So as to continue this stream of happiness within myself - I am off to read before sleep.
Be Happy, Be Good to YOU!!
...darleen & jan
seems you need to focus on the law of attraction, as "like attracts like"...focusing on stress only creates a more stressfull reality. Instead, focus on what you do want, envision how you will feel in a creative, stress-free workspace.
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Yes Cyd -- that does make more sense :)
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